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Fear… The Danger Of Being Too Controlling

Fear… The Danger Of Being Too Controlling

Working with business owners just like you, there is one thing I’ve discerned: if you want to grow your real estate practice, you’ve got to learn to let go of any task that doesn’t set you apart from the competition.

What stops you from doing this?

FEAR is the problem!

And fear leads to being, a control freak. Fear – in the case I’m writing about – fear is really just “False Evidence Appearing Real!”

In the type of unhealthy fear, I’m talking about:

  • Fear sees only the downside
  • Fear doesn’t let you stop to think it through
  • Fear tells us to avoid anything new or unknown
  • Fear constricts rather than expands who we are
  • Fear obscures your intuition
  • Fear often keeps us from making any decision at all

Unhealthy fear holds you back. Unhealthy fear leads you to wanting extraordinary control over every process. So how do you release some fear, give up some control when this is something most of us typically resist? First let’s set up an example.

In our world one of the biggest fears is hiring your first assistant; or delegating your files to a transaction coordinator. The excuse? “Well Mark, they won’t do it like I do it. I need to CONTROL everything.”

Consider this… when you automate, delegate or eliminate you can focus on what sets you apart from the competition.

When you hire or outsource to someone, even if they do it 75% as good as you do… you’ve still increased your capacity by 75%. Hire and outsource with 2 resources and you’ve increased your capacity by 150%. Make sense?

Leverage works!

So, the point being, so many of us hold back because we want to control everything, which leads to fear which leads to the fixed mindset thought that we must hire to perfection.

Perfection is not a standard, progress is.  

A big friction point that keeps many of us in fear is cost. If you’re making $150,000 annually and hiring an assistant for $40,000 a year plus a bonuses, the natural questions is: “will I be able to support it?” A logical and valid question. Watch this.

The solution has some pain

In our real estate practices, when we focus on overcoming a challenge that is perceived as a threat, such as an unfavorable change in MLS rules, or unfair competition, that pain motivates us to eradicate the problem immediately.

Conversely, when we focus on overcoming a challenge that is perceived as an opportunity, we are less inclined to take action. If you apply this same concept to control, it makes sense why most agents, team leaders and broker owners struggle with relinquishing it.

Most of us typically think about the opportunity associated with giving up control:

  • Increased free time
  • Flexibility to engage in more meaningful activities

It sounds logical. It sounds desirable. Yet this isn’t enough to motivate anyone of us to give up control.


Because, on the flip side, there’s the pain or threat associated with giving up control:

  • Increased errors
  • Reduced quality and upset clients.

If people are wired to minimize pain, it makes sense why most agents, team leaders and broker owners are convinced they’re best served by doing everything themselves.

Learning To Let Go

So how can you address this dilemma?

One way is to rethink the situation: Don’t think of giving up control as having the opportunity for more free time. Reframe it to focus on the downside or threat of not giving up control. Answer these three questions when you’re considering the pros and cons of giving up control:

  • What’s it costing you by not giving up control?
  • What will you lose by not giving up control?
  • What is the pain you’ll continue to endure if you don’t give up control?

These questions will help refocus your attention on where it needs to be to create action—on the pain associated with doing everything yourself. 

By focusing on the cost of not changing it, you’re more likely to take action. 

To reframe your view from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset:

  • Write down all the costs associated with not giving up control
  • Be creative yet be brutally honest.

Keep those pains up and visual in your world, so you see them every day. Talk with others who have gone before you and discuss how you can minimize the risks associated with delegating work to others.

Bottom line:  At JPAR we have a powerful template used to calculate the value of your time… because we know you’re capable of doing the tasks that make $100, $200, even thousands per hour. Meanwhile you’re stuck doing the $20 per hour tasks. Automate the those tasks first, delegate others by outsourcing or hiring the next tier of tasks.

Only when the perceived pain associated with not giving up control is greater than the pain associated with giving up control will you be able to make a shift.

What Is Your Promise?

What Is Your Promise?

Consumers will be loyal to brands that deliver what they need – dependability, service, exceptional service or exceptional value. When a brand consistently meets a need, it becomes a brand promise and becomes the company’s identity. FedEx for example, the brand promise is “when it absolutely positively has to be there overnight.” FedEx consistently delivers on their promise, which creates a powerful association, bond of trust and loyalty with consumers. As the CEO of your own real estate practice YOU are and critical extension of the JPAR brand.

The financial stakes of a transaction have a commensurate effect on brand loyalty. Consumers have far less to lose by trying another brand of candy than they do another brand of a real estate agent or lender. As a service professional, you are the brand, which you enhance and solidify each time you meet and exceed your clients’ expectations. If you have locked in your clients’ trust (and their willingness to refer you) through brand loyalty, you have a massive advantage over your competition.

How do you achieve brand loyalty? Consistently deliver your brand promise, and do it better than your competitors. Sporadic high performance will not cut it — EVERY customer must have the same great experience. Instead of chasing the next technology tool or widget, think about your service delivery. Rate your service delivery on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high). What will it take to be a 10?

Knowing your customers’ anxiety points is critical to achieving a strong brand promise. After all, consumers want brands that meet their needs, but not if the experience is painful.

Action – what action can you take?

Ask your customers this week what worries them most about the transaction. Then let them know what you will do to address their concerns. That’s one solid way to build brand trust and loyalty.

Our Promise –  at JPAR is to – exceed expectations. Personal Representation, Powerful Resources, Proven Results. Delivering on that promise has helped us become the #1 independently owned and operated brand in Texas and soon to the USA.